Being Assertive

Introductory Video:

Suggested activities:

Activity Description Time
Review Being a good listener homework Collect the Being a good listener homework and ask students for their experiences, thoughts and difficulties with this homework assignment 5 min
Being assertive Video Show the Being assertive introductory video 5 min
Video discussion Ask the students for their thoughts about the video and what they understood 5 min
3-step worksheet Ask the students to think of a behavior of another person who has annoyed them in the past and fill in the 3-step worksheet to write down how they would use these three steps to communicate their thoughts and feelings about it. Remind the students to remember to be specific about the behavior and describe only one behavior at a time. 15 min
Role Playing trios Divide the students into trios and give each trio a number from 1-3. Give each trio the scenario corresponding to their number described on the Assertive Communication Trio worksheet. One student in the trio will be the person doing the problematic behavior,  another will communicate this assertively and the third will evaluate this communication and give feedback to the communicator. The students will then switch roles and each student should have each role once. 20 min
Total time 50 min


3 step worksheet

Assertive communication trios worksheet


Ask the students to use the 3-step worksheet to write down two real life examples throughout the week of situations that made them feel uncomfortable, writing down in the worksheet how they would communicate this assertively.

Other resources you may find useful:

– People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts by Bolton, Robert – June 6, 1986


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